Self-Help Book: A Must Read for Menopausal Women

Apr 18, 2012 by

Jacky Lawrence from the UK has all  but conquered her hot flashes and other menopausal symptoms.  Like me and you, she suffered unexpected changes and had to work hard to find a way for menopause to stop interfering with her life.  She tells her story below and has released a self-help book available from mazon, and has setup a menopause forum to help other women that are in exactly the same situation she was when menopause hit her for six.  You can buy a Kindle edition of her book from Amazon, "What Happened? Where did I Go?" for as little as $2.99 and here's the Amazon link if interested.

Jacky Lawrence - Self-Help Book for Menopausal Women

Jacky Lawrence - Self-Help Book for Menopausal Women

SECRETARY Jacky Lawrence began to experience early symptoms of menopause at 43. One of these was distressing night sweats.

An unsympathetic partner suggested she slept between two bath towels. Not surprisingly the relationship ended, but Jacky, aged 59, from Kenilworth, has written an honest ‘no-holds barred’ self-help book, sourced natural remedies and runs a support website for other menopausal women. She tells her story to Catherine Vonledebur.


WHEN I was 43 I went through a very acrimonious split with a partner after 16 years.

I was starting to get hot flushes and it occurred to me I might be perimenopausal.

But I thought: ‘I’m only 43 I can’t be’

I started a new relationship at 50 with a man who had his own import business. We fell into lust, everything was great. After eight months we moved in together.

At the same time my menopausal symptoms got particularly bad. Hot flushes started to happen more frequently. I noticed changes to my body shape, my self-esteem was lower and I had feelings of anxiety I couldn’t explain.

But I was unprepared for the night sweats. I woke up in a pool of perspiration, the sheets drenched from top to bottom. Sleeping together got unbearable.

My partner didn’t like the sensation of sticky skin and came up with the solution of me sleeping between two bath sheets. It worked but it didn’t feel right, it felt very clinical.

Regrettably that was the most support he gave me through he worst menopausal years of my life.

We ended up sleeping in separate bedrooms and the relationship came to an end.

I was very depressed that my relationship was not going well. I became a different person –my self-esteem and confidence were non existent. I had intense feelings of anxiety and despair .

I went off the rails. I was drinking every day. We’d drink three or four bottles of wine a week – each – and I did no exercise.

I’d always enjoyed lots of exercise, particularly competitive ballroom dancing. If I didn’t have to earn money I would dance, all day, every day.

At 42 I taught Rosemary Conley Diet and Fitness to music and continued for eight years.

When I started to speak to people about my menopause my self-confidence returned. I realised I didn’t have to stay in an unhappy relationship. We both knew it was wrong and I found my flat in Kenilworth.

For the first month I was unbelievably miserable. I thought I would find instant happiness. I didn’t realise I hadn’t quite dealt with my menopausal issues. I am still learning.

I started to discover people who had natural ways to treat my symptoms with homeopathy, reiki, shiatsu massage, angelic healing, yoga and naturopathy.

I saw counsellors, did aromatherapy and resumed my interest in exercise. I started doing classes again – a little bit of ballroom dancing, line-dancing and Zumba. I found out about a naturopath and herbalist at Neal’s Yard in Leamington Spa. Sara Southgate has had countless successes with menopausal women just by prescribing natural ingredients and advising on diet and lifestyle. Each time I visited her, my symptoms lessened further. Most importantly the pre-flush misery has all but disappeared and for me, this is life-changing.

My biggest help at the moment is Meta-Medicine – it is based on the theory that every physical symptom is based on an emotional event that’s happened previously. It is counselling with EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique. You tap on acupuncture points. It’s amazing. I go once a week to my friend Roni Flatley, a Meta health coach in Solihull.

I have always looked for answers. Thousands of women just go under because they do not know where to turn to.

I started writing. That really helped My book is my passion.

I want to make women aware that they can take their life back so I set up – a single point of contact for menopausal women. Through the worst years of menopause I did as much research as I could. I wanted to create somewhere women could find answers.

Every woman is unique, her needs are different, not only because of what is happening to her body, but through the life she has led and her genetics.

Given there is not one answer to cure all the symptoms I felt I wanted to make these solutions accessible.

When I was younger I loved going out. After 50 I was settling down. But we do grow older and wiser, and as women we grow more beautiful.

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